Just curious since the grease interval from Dexter is every 3k miles--sounds like you are satisfying that interval. The way tandem axle trailer suspension work, it's hard to see how any bushing solution could work. I recognize you mentioned ONLY spring hanger bushings but I think about them similarly across the entire suspension line since if one needs greasing might as well be all of them. Perhaps this is an oversimplified approach tho.
You have three choices when it comes to the bushings/shackle straps.
-Wet bolts w/bronze bushings (advantage is thicker shackles that come with the Dexter Ez Flex kit)
-Never fail bushings from Lippert (now very hard to find, if not discontinued all together)
-OEM grade nylon
Our SOB rig came with standard Dexter equalizers/nylon bushings. I started to look into the bushings after the suspension kept making noise. There is a short primer that I put together showing my findings down below. Two things that really opened my eyes.
1-OEM nylon bushings are not suitable as you have found. here is a pic of mine after 20k miles. I went to Never-fail bushings next...you can see they lasted much longer but still started to wear through at 20k mi. See this snippet from the doc below:
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2-Shackle thickness can really affects mounting hole wear. The thicker shackles come with wet bolts. See this snippet from my doc below:
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So, my conclusion was to stick with bronze bushings in order to get the thicker shackle straps. I changed the bronze bushings and they were worn somewhat at 30k miles so I just keep on greasing them.
Keep us updated on your conclusions.