Dan,
I found a company that will sell the whole kit and caboodle (brakes, axles, springs, etc) and that will probably be the direction we go.
I called Morryde about doing the 8k IS upgrade, but it is about $3,000 more and you have to drive to Indiana to get the best install. The advantage is that it is set to your tow rig and is a much better setup than the old straight axle. We will likely be upgrading our tow rig to a DRW setup so unless I have that truck, I wouldn’t do IS (budget pending of course).
https://performancetrailerbraking.com/disc-brakes
That is the place I found and most customers are pretty happy with them. I will do all of the work myself (if this is the route we go). Like any upgrade, if you look hard enough you will find someone that says it sucks.
As far as brakes, I run a stout setup on the truck. I have EBC orange stuff pads, Stoptech slotted rotors front and rear, and Lucas DOT 4 brake fluid. The trailer brakes are drum and setup aggressive with heavy electric and 6.5 gain. The trailer brakes are a little grabby, but it feels confident.
Good luck with it. Next month we are driving from San Diego, CA to Denver, to Colorado Springs, to Wyoming, to the Black Hills, to Denver and back to San Diego. I will make a better report after that with the current combination.
To get some headway in our limits, the truck just got 4.10 gears installed and I am putting Raceline wheels rated for 4,000lbs and Michelin LTX 295/70r18 that are rated to 4080lbs. The AAM 11.5 axle housing is rated to 10,000lbs so I am not so worried if I wind up a few hundred pounds heavier from our last trip.