Thanks for the comments, for us picking a mattress that suits the two of us is one of our harder things to do. Trailryder, my wife and I are the same as you guys, she likes a soft mattress and I like a firm one. We had a sleep number at home for several years but didnt like the small air mattresses to sleep on each side but a lot of people swear by them. I have been told by several people that they simply gave the online mattress away to a charity and got a full refund but I am still skeptical. Our Reflection came with a firm mattress and the wife used a topper on her side and this is what made us think that maybe a Solitude would have a little better quality mattress but Calbar's comment makes me wonder. I think we are going to have to go to the dealer and try different models out. When it comes to a mattress I am worse than any woman trying on shoes.